First, let me start off here by stating that this is not going to be a commercial for natural male enhancement products. Although, it is pretty funny watching some guy run around with a smile all day on his face because he now has a great sex life due to some supplement he is taking. Let's get real people
First, we should make a distinction between Sexual problems and Low libido. Low libido in men is just one of several problems that men can have sexually. Men can have problems with ejaculation or with their erections. We will not be discussing those problems today.
High blood pressure, Diabetes, High cholesterol, Obesity, and Depression can cause a man to have libido problems. Also, many medications to treat some of these medical conditions have negative sexual side effects, including low libido in men. Men can also have low hormone or dopamine levels, which also affect the male sex drive. No one is suggesting that you stop taking your medications in order for you to have sex again.
Psychological problems can include just everyday stress to serious anxiety concerning financial or relationship problems which can also result in the low libido in men.
Depression, while also a medical problem, is also a psychological problem. Treatment of depression is most effective when it includes psychotherapy, or counselling by a trained therapist. Failure to resolve this issue with your partner and the need for counselling makes this a psychological problem. That doesn't make you mentally ill. It just means you (along with thousands of other couples) need the help of a trained counsellor to address the problem more effectively.
What can be done to fight low libido in men?
Well, the good news is that this is a very treatable condition, according to WebMD. Men who test low for the hormone testosterone can receive Hormone replacement therapy.
So, if you can't physically perform in the bedroom, your desire will naturally go down too.
Talk with your partner
One of the best things you can do is talk with your partner about the problems you're having with low libido. Sometimes it helps just to talk things out and take some of the pressure and stress out of the performance part of sex. There is something very sexy about a partner who is very patient and understanding, and who is willing to be there when you are ready.
Time to see a Therapist
If talking to your partner has not produced the results you want, it may be time to see a therapist, especially one whose focus is on sexual problems in couples. Before you see a counsellor, see your physician to rule out any physical cause of the problem.
I know you're probably thinking, "How much is this going to cost me?" Well...how much is your love life worth to you? If your intimacy is as important to you and your partner as it is with most couples, you'll do whatever it takes, pay whatever the cost, go to see who ever it takes to "get back that loving feeling." Yes, sex is not the most important thing in your relationship. But, is sure is GREAT when everything is working right, including having the desire for each other.